Tough Love!

Dear Unhappy Election Friends,I awakened this morning and just HAD to share my thoughts, so here they are.  There will be no “name calling” or shaming!  I am simply going to ask you some questions and share some observations with you.  Take what you want, and leave the rest… 1.      Have you ever heard the adage, “Actions speak louder than words?”  Well, your actions are 180 degrees in opposition of your claims of LOVE and ACCEPTANCE.  What you are telling me is that your word cannot be trusted; as such, you are making me suspicious of you (when I was not suspicious before).  I don't think that is the message you are trying to send.2.      “It’s not all about YOU!”  Funny thing, this country’s story is about ALL the 310 million souls who live here; most of whom are PROUD of their country and respect one another and the American flag. IF you are upset about something, then make a list, offer SOLUTIONS and follow the process that other people in a constitutional republic follow… the Rule of LAW.   ·        “In God we trust”- our motto (PS- Your God doesn’t have to look like my God)·        “E pluribus unum”- Latin for “Out of many, one” 3.      While many of the protesters may be older, I’m still seeing a lot of teenagers.  Should the Voting Age be the same as the LEGAL drinking age, 21?  Is voting TOO much responsibility for you?  Especially if LOSING is not in your vocabulary- here’s some competition etiquette.   ·        I know, you were taught that “everyone who participates, wins”.  What that means is that you should feel proud of yourself for competing and giving it your ALL.  Yet in the real world of adults, there is always going to be a winner (someone who comes in first place).  If you don’t like being the loser in the game, then reframe it as, “I came in SECOND PLACE”- ALL GOOD!  Then you graciously congratulate the winner.  It’s called “Good Sportsmanship”!  Not everyone gets a trophy… ·        PS- You don’t get to change the rules AFTER the competition is over! 4.       Safety Pins-  From my perspective they are used to hold up cloth diapers, or pieces of material that have been torn and need repair.  Are these the messages you want to send by wearing the pins?  Just because YOU see things a certain way, you cannot assume that everyone else has the same frame of reference.  ·         IF you want to designate yourself as a “Safe Place” for others who may be frightened, simply “Be the Change you want to See in the World”.  Stop fighting, calling names and spreading hate- then this need for a “safe place” would not be necessary; EVERY PLACE would be a SAFE PLACE! ·        In the meantime, I’ll strive to recognize your intention about the Safety Pin.  5.      There is no “US vs THEM” unless we keep seeing ourselves as separate from each other.  WE are all part of one another (on an energetic level), and when one of us is hurting we are all hurting.  ·        USE YOUR WORDS… If you hurt, take a deep breath, be calm and tell me what is wrong, so that we can work TOGETHER to solve the problem.  You must offer suggestion as well, because I don’t know your whole story… just be honest and don’t assume that because I may not look or dress like you, that I won’t understand… I will listen, I will not judge.·        We have ALL been manipulated by the media and politicians in this election.  They had an agenda and wanted a certain outcome.  That is NOT the role of the media or the “talking heads”, so perhaps the best solution to all of this is that their press privileges get revoked until they can report the facts objectively.   We will hold all elected officials accountable, yet give them a fair chance to prove themselves! 6.      White privilege-  Really?  The first time I heard this was over the summer.  I honestly think this is another ploy by those covertly in power to continue to fuel the race issue.  It is obvious that our skin colors are all unique, and I can no more change the color of my Eastern European skin (except by tanning) than anyone else can… nor should we have to.  Furthermore, I refuse to be “shamed” for MY skin color, any more than YOU should be shamed for yours!  ·        Let’s acknowledge and release any of the old stereotypes we’ve heard and simply meet new people without any agenda- Not, “my Black friend, Angela… or my White friend, Bill… just my NEW friends Manuel, Audre and Don."·        We should be building people UP, not trying to tear them down.  ·        Instead, Let’s talk about American privilege (yet in a positive way)- AMERICAN GRATITUDE: where we celebrate all the wonderful things about our country- freedom, stability, patriotism, compassion, etc.  Help me add to this list... We would also see that If we did that, we’d be unifying together and working towards making our country HONESTLY great again for everyone!   7.      There is wonderful diversity in our nation and everyone’s job is to learn from one another.  Name Calling and Bullying is JUVENILE and unacceptable.  This is something that Hillary’s supporters were passionate about, so STOP calling anyone who doesn’t agree with you names like bigot, racist, sexist, xenophobe, misogynist, etc.  You don’t know me… yet! ·         It is human nature to notice differences- we are hard-wired to do so from a biological survival perspective.  The thing that makes us HUMAN is our ability to reason and feel.  I implore everyone to start using both our heads and hearts again looking beyond just ourselves and outward to one another with compassion.  In striking out against someone else, you are actually hurting yourself as well.  ·        PS- TOUGH LOVE works and builds people of character, strength and compassion... Give it a try! Enough said, it’s time for a cup of coffee and positive start to my day.   Namaste...