Open Forum

How Many Choices does a Baby Human have in “Pro-Choice”?

NONE... as has been clearly demonstrated in recent legislation/ headlines in New York and Virginia!  Business corporations like Planned Parenthood have personhood and tax exemption status; however, Baby Humans in the United States of America today have NO CHOICE or personhood RIGHTS and can be actively killed right up until delivery (late 3rd trimester).  

How have the hearts of American citizens become SO icy cold that they cheer and support the right to INFANTICIDE?  How can we as WOMEN support such barbaric actions… further minimizing and negating our God-given power to GESTATE LIFE within our Womb space?  

We speak of the return of the Divine Feminine to help balance and heal patriarchy, and yet we vehemently destroy or shame all that authentic femininity embodies:  Gentleness, Compassion, Empathy, Sensitivity, Nurturance, Guardianship and Caring, just to name a few characteristics. 

I know… everyone wants CHOICE and control of their bodies and I fully support Empowerment.  Yet I suggest that this must be done FULLY with everyone accepting responsibility for their choices along the way.  As I see it, there are at least FOUR separate CHOICES that women are making PRIOR to making a choice for 3rd trimester Abortion… the Baby Human has NONE. Let’s think about this more humanely and as adults make healthier choices along the way…

CHOICES 1-4:  Which one could change lives for the better?  

1. Women have multiple choices for Birth Control- Pill, IUD, implant, etc.

              While some religions do not advocate birth control, the prevention of pregnancy (“responsible parenthood concept”) is certainly more palatable than electing 3rd trimester abortions. Fertility Awareness is an aspect of Natural Family Planning & when applying this knowledge through the Sympto-Thermal Method (STM), it is over 99% effective in postponing pregnancy according to their website.

2. Women engage in sexual intercourse.

              Hopefully the choice is voluntarily with a meaningful partner, yet if heinously raped or otherwise taken advantage of, other choices are available before pregnancy/ abortion. 

3. Women should INSIST upon CONDOM use (even with other birth control).

              This is critical to protect self and partner from sexually transmitted infections like HIV, Syphilis, GC, Chlamydia, Herpes, Hep B, Genital warts, etc.  Thoughtful and respectful sexual practice.  At this point, chance of pregnancy has decreased significantly.  Specific efficacy noted here by the CDC. 

4. Plan B is available, if women feel deep regret after intercourse in order to prevent pregnancy.

              Emergency Contraception could replace the need for abortions (best within 3-5 days of intercourse depending on the product).   Plan B is available without a prescription.                

If, for whatever reason, Emergency Contraception was not chosen in time and the woman allows the tiny baby human to develop in the warmth of her nurturing womb for 12 weeks (1st trimester), then on to 24 weeks (2nd trimester), what would cause her to seek termination at the point of viability?  Is she seeking a short-term solution (often without informed consent) that packs potential long-term emotional turmoil decades after her abortion choice?  She could simply deliver the baby and offer him/ her up for adoption, making another couple HAPPY!                 

So, I feel that this Pro-Choice admonition is being overplayed in our country today.  Those who advocate a Pro-Choice stance have actually already made FOUR CHOICES along their path to the pregnancy/ adoption/ abortion choice.  As humans engaging in sexual activity, it is time that we accept responsibility for all of our adult choices and STOP making our Baby Humans pay for our uninformed CHOICES with the ultimate price of DEATH. 

What can we do?  

              When we know better… we should DO better!   Science tells us unequivocally that the human baby is ALIVE with a heartbeat noted at 6 weeks gestation and is certainly viability after 24 weeks.  LIFE is valuable, leading us to connection and expansion of our humanity.  Death and abortion, however, cause separation and constriction of all that is good within us.  Could this be at the root of what is ailing so many in society today?  Let’s reconnect to truth in a life-affirming fashion…            

Reflect upon that special gift of FORETHOUGHT that we uniquely possess as human beings.  When she speaks of our creative minds in her 1/4/18 article entitled, "What Makes us Human", Lisa Marden explains forethought as "the ability to imagine the future in many possible iterations and then to help create the future we imagine."   What type of future do YOU desire?  I want a future grounded in the sanctity of life and our children; otherwise, there really is NO FUTURE for us in the USA, or for Western Civilization as we know it.                   

I ask merely that we keep an open mind and heart as we think about the CHOICES we make each day and how they impact our future.  There is NO JUDGMENT, merely the invitation to rethink what we have been programmed to believe since the 1970’s.  As women especially, I invite each one of us to reembody all that makes us uniquely feminine.  We DO have unlimited CHOICES in the USA today; let’s start making life affirming ones, once again. No one is taking away anyone’s CHOICE… merely asking us all to CHOOSE healthier options earlier!   Call your congressional representatives and say NO to Infanticide! 

Third trimester abortions are BARBARIC and have NO PLACE IN CIVILIZED SOCIETY. 

The USA is one of only 7 countries in the world who even allow abortions after 20 weeks… we CAN and MUST do better than this!

Offered with love and support of LIFE

Lisa Evers, MA, BSN, RN, CWO4, USCGR (ret)  

Toddlers or Troubadours?

Is anyone else tired of the incessant fighting and bickering in the world, today?  We sound like a bunch of rambunctious toddlers, each trying to get his/ her own way without much regard for the other.   What would it feel like if we just STOPPED and took a deep breath together???  PLEASE… let's stop the reactive Saul Alinsky-inspired, confrontational fight against “everything”.  Instead of putting all that energy into fighting AGAINST, it's time for a different approach- One grounded in nature, harmony and new possibilities?  Collaboration (aka- working WITH)!  You may want to resist right now but hear me out… this will be brief!  When something is out of harmony in our bodies, we get a chance to rebalance by listening to cues we are given.  For example, if we have been running errands all day in the heat and forget to drink water, we may feel thirsty and cranky as a result.  Doesn’t make any sense to get MAD at those feelings or fight AGAINST the thirst- simply pause, reflect and drink some quenching water- a gift from Mother Nature. If, however, we keep pushing through the signals it gets harder to fix the situation and we may end up in the Urgent Care center due to dehydration and exhaustion, when all we needed to do was drink water to maintain hydration/ homeostasis.  The point here is that we MUST pause to assess the cause of the problem- If we fail to do so, we may overlook an easy solution or be blindly driven to ignore the signals and “keep on trucking”… after all, it’s not THAT bad yet!  We’re so strong and dedicated, with important work to share!Back to our world today… It now has become THAT bad, yet we don’t seem able to PAUSE long enough to properly assess the situation.  Everyone is so keyed up and reactive- Fighting AGAINST everything and one another (at times with good intentions).  I’ll bet I’d get an argument if I merely commented about the lovely summer weather & sunshine (too hot, too humid, too rainy, too something…).  Let’s stop the insanity and assess what’s really going on!  Is the weather the problem or US?  I invite a more Compassionate, Collaborative (and yes, Feminine) way to elicit healthy change in society- It’s time to harness the Power Within and work TOGETHER, in harmony

How do we Reinvigorate this process?

 1)  Listen to your Authentic Self- the Truth inside of YOU (not the so-called “experts” outside).  I now gauge my trust of any outside suggestions based on the following query-  “What is their motivation?”  THIS is the order I desire:  Purpose, People, Planet and then Profit.  IF driven primarily by Profit or other self-serving mission, I file their suggestions at the bottom of my prioritized list.  As I see it, they are NOT looking out for me, but for themselves… remember that! 2)  Invite dialogue with ANYONE who will share their thoughts, feelings and message in a calm, respectful way and strive to do so through the lens of unconditional love.  Remember the Golden Rule? “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”! 3)  Deeply Listen to others, hold space and share your own insight with Confidence and Compassion- No two people can ever see a given situation in the same way… As humans, we each possess history, biases, experiences, cultural conditioning, etc.  NONE of these needs to be apologized for or demonized; merely accepted as influential (without judgment)- “Seek first to understand” (both self & others)… only then can we move forward.   

4)  CO-Create a healthier New Story/ Concerto with clear boundaries, rights and responsibilities.  We each have a unique mission/ purpose on Earth and must be encouraged to share our music in a way that makes for a harmonious concerto, instead of dissonant cacophony.

 This harmony plays out all the time in nature- without any spoken words.  Birds do it, even with all the squirrels competing for food at the feeders.  They don’t go around pecking out the squirrels’ eyes, casting shame or torpedoing them when not looking… they must trust their inner guidance; creating a way to co-exist and thrive.  I think we can do better as human beings- it’s time!  Begin by calling a truce to the pointless fighting, and work on Listening, Collaborating and Co-Creating a healthy New Concerto in a respectful fashion focusing on the “big picture”- Purpose, People, and Planet… long before profits (and personalities)!  😉